Y Tu Mamá También

Y Tu Mamá También ★★★★½

Life is like the surf, so give yourself away like the sea.

Now this is a movie. An incredible work focusing on the human spirit in all of its awkwardness, humor, and tragedy, realizing that all of them are closely intertwined. Life is too short and too sporadic. Smoke a joint. Drink a beer. Visit a beach. Fuck a girl. Or a guy. Or both. Tell a story, and laugh at even the most absurdly nihilistic of them. Acknowledge that some things won't work out. Time, while fleeting, can change a man fast. Even if a friendship or a relationship doesn't have satisfying closure, you will always have the memories of the good times to reflect on. Life is complicated. If you try to make sense of it, you're just wasting time you could be spending on enjoyment.

The friendship between Julio and Tenoch feels too real. The body language, the rapidness of their speech, the way they tell their jokes and react to them. Their happiness, sadness, anger, and most strikingly, their small instances of somberness are genuine beyond belief. The energy of youth. In contrast, the quiet energy of life slipping away with Luisa. I think hers might be the most gut-wrenching crying I've seen in any film. Few regrets to have. Better to forgive and love than hold a grudge and hate. I enjoyed the build to their sexual encounters a lot. Their goals are clear early on, but not unleashed out of the gate. As for sex as a whole in the film, which permeates throughout almost its entirety, I admired how sloppy and very unsexy it all was. Sex seems to be something that is erotic in the moment, but when you watch it as an outside participant, it's just kinda funny. Seeing two fleshy bodies flopping on each other like fish out of water. The acknowledgement of intercourse as a humorous experience is embraced wholeheartedly here and I'm all for it.

I have found throughout however many years of analytically viewing film that I enjoy movies that are a tough mix of comedy and drama, light and darkness. I like things that are bittersweet. With this and Children of Men, though the latter has little comedy to speak of, Alfonso Cuaron, shows his ability to capture this complicated feeling gloriously. Y Tu Mama Tambien is almost like a Wong Kar Wai film if Wai was Mexican and fifty times hornier. (It's been rad continuing to carry on the Filmstruck theme of romance.) I believe this is a film that I admire deeply, but am at a relative loss for words as to just why it hit me as hard as it did. The performances are stunning. The cinematography is beautiful, doing far more for Mexico than Call Me by Your Name did for Italy. The use of narration, including the brief second of silence that happens before each bit happens, helps more than it hinders.

The film is a journey, one that is simple in its premise and deep with how it approaches its themes. I don't call a film "deep" often, as I find it overused and often attributed to films that are in some way or another pompous. Y Tu Mama Tambien is deep, gorgeous, tragic, heartwarming, and just downright incredible. Without question one of the best films I've ever seen, and one I can recommend for anyone searching for something rambunctious and infecting. I am so excited to see what Roma offers, and to likely rewatch Children of Men very soon. Give Cuaron all of the awards and praise of the world. That's the truth, which is totally amazing, even if you can't ever reach it.

9.5/10

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